Thursday, October 7, 2010

Coach yourself!

How many times have you heard that it's important to plug yourself into self improvement? Do you think self-improvement is important???  Your answer should be ABSOLUTELY!  Have you also heard that your subconscious is really making all of your decisions for you? Do you believe that?  I do without a doubt.

I strongly believe (and keep in mind this is coming from the book of Kami ;) ) that in order to help others you have to help yourself first.  We're programmed to believe whatever it is we currently believe from everything we've been exposed to in our lives.  So, with that in mind I believe that what you think about and spend your time doing is what you get out of your life. What are you reading everyday? Who are you listening to everyday? Who do you hang out with on a consistent basis? Are the things you're doing each day building you, keeping you stagnant or breaking you down????  It's important that you recognize what's happening in your life. 

If your intention is to be a leader and help others, you must first believe in yourself and in what you're trying to teach.  If you try to coach others and you don't have those two elements, no one is going to follow you.

I encourage you to feed your mind.  Read a good book everyday, and I don't mean a novel.  I'm a sucker for a good novel but it certainly isn't helping me to improve myself.  Read something positive, something that makes you think about improving yourself and the direction your going in life. Read something that empowers you.  If you aren't a reader I highly encourage you to become one.  Read a chapter a day if that's what it takes to get started.  Listen to and surround yourself by successful people that encourage you to be better. Surround yourself around positive people that believe in themselves and in you.

If you do these things I have no doubt that your life will improve in every area of your life and it'll help you to move forward in a positive direction and to become the leader and example that you want to be.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Is someone throwing darts at you????

Do you ever feel like someone is following you around and throwing darts at you? LOL That's how I've felt the last few days.  What's interesting is that it all started happening after I read the book "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield.  It's soooooo good and everyone needs to read it.  It basically talks about Resistance in our lives.  It explains what resistance is and how to overcome it and that if we don't it'll prevent us from moving towards greatness.  WOW! 

So anyway, I read the book and loved the concepts taught and decided to implement those concepts into my behavior on a daily basis.  I decided if I was going to do this it would be done in all aspects of my life, my spiritual side, my relationships, our business, my emotional & physical life.  The whole cabootle.  After making this decision it was as if the world caved in on me all at once, like someone was following me around throwing darts at me. ARGH!  I can laugh about it now but not until I recognized those darts as resistance did it end and man I'm glad it's over.

Why am I sharing this with you? Well, because I know I'm not the only one that has had days that all the darts hit you at once and you just want to dig a whole and put yourself in it for awhile. ;)  I'm sharing this with you because if this is you right now in any aspect of your life you need to get the book and read it to understand what is happening.  Resistance (which I define as Satan) is determined each day to discourage you and put up blocks that get you to fail. If you are falling in your world of despair right now and accomplishing nothing except surviving each day you need to recognize the resistance and make changes.

If you find yourself blaming others for your frustrations or downfalls, that's resistance.
If you just want to sleep all day rather than face your circumstances, that's resistance.
If you are mad about the economy and use that excuse for your financial situation, that's resistance.
If you believe that no one wants to be a part of your business opportunity, that's resistance.
If you are too busy to do things that really matter to move you forward, that's resistance.

I think you get the drift.  Seriously, go to Amazon and order the book.  I think I paid like $9.00 and that included shipping and handling. The message is priceless.

I went into our 15 year olds room the other day and on his wall right next to his bed so he can see it everyday was "Do Something Successful EVERYDAY!" How cool is that???? :)

John and I wish only GREAT things for each of you. It's time to put your chin up, decide what it is you REALLY want in life, make a plan and then put the plan into action everyday until it happens!
My new favorite quote is.
"Create Your Day! Either you do something to create your day, or you react to your day and let it create you."

Friday, March 12, 2010

My Tribute to Linda McCarthy

I've been avoiding doing this because words cannot describe how I'm feeling or how I feel about Linda.  I know that many of you have either met Linda, spoken to her on the phone or perhaps heard her speak at an event or on a video.  I have had the awesome privilege of knowing Linda for the past 12 years and I want to share with you what Linda met to me. 

When I first met Linda I was about 26 years old.  I was young and I know at that time I had no idea how she would affect my life.  I had no idea that she would not only be my mentor, my guidance, my best friend but mostly a mother figure for me. I've been so blessed to have had her in my life.

I think the things I loved about Linda the most was that she truly cared for people, she truly believed that anyone could succeed in life and wanted to be a part of that.  She had great wisdom and understanding of not only the industry but of people.  She believed that relationships were all that matter in order to be successful in life and she lived that.  She was the same person all the time in every situation.

I loved how we would call and talk to each other about any business or life situation and she had the answers or we would laugh together if she didn't and make something up. ;) My favorite and mostly missed phone calls will be the ones about nothing. Not about her illness, not about business, just about life.  The joys and tears of life. What an amazing example of life she was.  I know she's looking down and telling me to move on and move forward and I will but she will truly be missed, not today and not tomorrow but forever.

I love you Linda and thank you for the example and legacy you have left behind for me and thousands of people but mostly thank you for being my mentor, my friend, for being my mom. ;) 


Wednesday, March 3, 2010

The Obstacles in our Life

Are the obstacles you have in your life preventing you from choosing to move forward in life mentally, spiritually, or in your relationships and business? If so WHY?

Wow! It has been forever since I've blogged. As you know I get a lot of thinking done when I run so obviously I've started running again and wanted to share my experience with you. My analogy as usual is long but I do get to the point. ;)

It's March 3, 2010. I woke up at 6:30 a.m. (which is unheard of for me) with a throbbing headache, not the way I wanted to start my day. I got the 3 oldest off to school, made several business calls, and called John on the East coast to update him about our incredible meeting last night with 200K James Sanford. Feeling a bit better I decided today was the day to start running again.

It was sunny out, the temperature read about 49 degrees, I convinced the 3 year old that a run was a good idea for both of us and off we went. Although small my obstacles were this morning this is what I experienced.

First, my Ipod was almost dead ARGH, I couldn't blame anyone but myself for that. I willed it to work for my goal was a 3 1/2 mile run. As I got further from home I found myself running into a heavy head wind. Keep in mind I was pushing my 3 yr. old in the jogger as well. For some reason he keeps growing and getting heavier. (note to self: quit feeding the 3 yr. old)

I started thinking that maybe this run wasn't such a good idea. I then said to myself "Why not, you big woosy" :) I continued on my run and it seemed like every other car that passed me was a smoker, (ARGH I chose to let that irritate me) you see, I was out to enjoy clean fresh air on my run and that wasn't even happening. THEN Jack decided that this run wasn't such a great idea either, the sun was in his eyes one minute, the next minute the wind was too cold or........ you get the point.

Could I have turned around? Not really, at that point I was too far away. LOL I had a bit of self talk reminding myself why I chose to run in the first place. I want to get in better shape, I want to feel better, I want to be able to run in the 5K in Vegas, and I find my mini headaches are greatly reduced when I run. I then decided to stay focused on those 4 things.

Needless to say that once I changed my focus by not placing it on my insignificant but obnoxious obstacles my outlook changed. The sun came out, my Ipod stayed charged, the wind died down and Jack fell asleep so I ran even further than I planned. IT FELT GREAT!

This experience made me analyze life in general. What are our obstacles? Are we creating obstacles in our life on a daily basis? What are we filling our lives with that make us lose focus on what we REALLY want in life?

I believe that some obstacles in our lives we can't control like death and sickness BUT most obstacles in our life we create. I believe that whenever we are trying to improve anything in our lives the adversary wants us to fail. He wants us to find obstacles, he wants us stressed, depressed, tired, frustrated and he wants us to quit. I have no doubt that he celebrates when we do quit. He wants us to fill our lives with so much STUFF that we are too busy to improve, too busy to be successful, too busy to create the life that we really want. Perhaps, we aren't even busy but we're in such a slump that we aren't creating anything in our lives.

I challenge you to re-evaluate your life, to identify what you can take out of your life to make time for your future. I encourage you that if your struggling with obstacles to identify honestly with yourself if they are legitimate or if you are creating them. Then choose to create a different life for yourself, your future and your loved ones. Yes, there will be sacrifices but aren't you, your loved ones and your future worth it? The answer is YES! Now it's up to you to choose.

We're always here to help, support, and coach you so don't be afraid to reach out to us for guidance.

Make it a GREAT day! Choose to be Happy and Successful in Life!